Ditch the Bitch Stigma will have you looking in the mirror, embracing discomfort, and finding the inner strength to stop apologizing for being the strong, confident woman you long to be, without being toxic. Kali Williams will surprise and engage you with practical tips and sensible strategies on how to build a support system, identify your strengths, take up space, cut out toxic people, change your behavior, and ultimately find the balance in being true to yourself! Every woman has been called a bitch (yep -- even me!).
Elizabeth McCormick
Former US Army Black Hawk Pilot and Motivational Speaker at PilotSpeaker.com
Ditch the Bitch Stigma: Embrace Your Inner Badass! keeps its promise to provide “a new approach to old problems.” Even if the term "bitch" doesn’t naturally resonate with you, you will have a whole new level of understanding and appreciation for it after reading this book. It is well-written, original, and insightful. In a very candid, helpful, and down-to-earth way, Ditch the Bitch Stigma inspires action. In particular, I especially appreciate the tactical tips on how to start saying no, stop saying sorry, and improve communication in so many other ways as well. It’s advice that everyone can use. More than a self-help book or a workbook, it’s a work of art. Ideally, it’s a movement. Let’s hope so.
Charlene DeCesare
Speaker and Sales and Marketing Specialist
Ditch the Bitch Stigma: Embrace Your Inner Badass! keeps its promise to provide “a new approach to old problems.” Even if the term "bitch" doesn’t naturally resonate with you, you will have a whole new level of understanding and appreciation for it after reading this book. It is well-written, original, and insightful. In a very candid, helpful, and down-to-earth way, Ditch the Bitch Stigma inspires action. In particular, I especially appreciate the tactical tips on how to start saying no, stop saying sorry, and improve communication in so many other ways as well. It’s advice that everyone can use. More than a self-help book or a workbook, it’s a work of art. Ideally, it’s a movement. Let’s hope so.
JoEllen Notte
Author of The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression and The Conversations We Aren’t Having
While bitch isn't a word I’ve been entirely comfortable with, Kali's definition is certainly something more of us need to choose! She speaks to the piece in all of us that, if we are brave enough to integrate, will help us make our biggest contributions, form our healthiest relationships, and show up with the most sincere self-love. I don’t think anyone can read this powerful book without waking up something beautiful that is longing to be expressed.
Shasta Nelson
Friendship expert, keynote speaker, and author of several books including Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness
A super fun, articulate book that gives the middle finger to societal expectations placed on women. Highly encouraged for anyone trying to navigate a man’s world with courage, integrity, and humor. Loved the inclusion of diverse genders as a lot of this is universal!
Hunter Rook
Author of the GENDER Book
Ditch the Bitch Stigma is an authoritative and comprehensive book on the topic of confident communication for women. As a CFO who spent over 25 years in the corporate world, I can unequivocally say that any organization benefits when ALL employees have ownership in protecting a cultural environment along with possessing the tools required to enable collective voices, wisdom and insight be heard, understood and taken into consideration. The author’s Mirror Matrix, a well thought out model of nine archetypes, provides the framework for a series of exercises revealed in a systematic way that can empower women to learn HOW to communicate with confidence while also setting and asserting boundaries. In other words, this book will help any company unlock and leverage the potential that women can bring toward building highly effective teams and profitable companies. I highly recommend.
Earl Bell
Author of “Winning in Baseball and Business, Transforming Little League Principles into Major League Profits for Your Company”
I love The Mirror Matrix! This tool in Ditch the Bitch Stigma gives language to an all too common experience that many (if not most) women face on a regular basis -- how to reflect on their behavior when they're called a bitch. Are they being a toxic bitch or a badass? The author, Kali Williams, draws clear distinctions between these extremes and offers several nuanced examples drawn from real life and pop culture. She advocates self-reflection over accepting other people's opinion and provides specific strategies to counter the internalized and ongoing societal messages that aim to keep women docile and controllable.
As a trans man, I recognized the challenges Kali named and found inspiration for new ways to be an ally to the women in my life, be they family, friends, or clients. I also saw a new perspective for what may be holding the women I coach back from being their boldest badass selves and living their truth without apology. I'm recommending they all read this book!
Robbie Samuels
Author of Croissants vs Bagels: Strategic, Effective, and Inclusive Networking at Conferences
If stigma is removed from being called a bitch, not only is misogyny being dismantled, but the power of one's voice, desires, needs, wants, etc. can actually be shared with others so that a culture of respect can be fostered. Using our own empowerment is how we can support and challenge one another to ask for what we need and thrive. Kali Williams pulls from vast experience working with men and women to cultivate inner confidence and empowerment so that we can all benefit. This is a GREAT read with immediately applicable action steps that stir up conversation and make lasting change in the reader and those around her.
Jess Pettit
Author of Good Enough Now: How Doing the Best We Can With What We Have is Better Than Nothing
I love this book! Ditch the Bitch Stigma: Embrace Your Inner Badass! is thoughtful and thought-provoking. It will have you thinking about why you react to the word Bitch, and why you use it (or not). It makes a clear distinction between the types of empowerment that have earned the term and the toxic behaviors to avoid. This book does seek to educate but more importantly, it invites you to act. To advocate for yourself and, by extension, for the women (and men) around you. Brava, Kali Williams.
Gina Razón
Voice Coach, Speaker, and Former Opera Singer
As a former dominatrix, Kali knows all about being a bitch. Ditch the Bitch Stigma encourages women to embrace the term, like Kali has, and use it to boost confidence, set boundaries, and build networks with other strong women. It’s the perfect book for anyone who has ever been called a bitch.
Lauren Marie Fleming
Author of Bawdy Love: 10 Steps to Profoundly Loving Your Body
With clarity, insight, and years of experience as a professional bitch, Kali Williams lays out a map to navigate the negative stigma around women's power. This book takes you through the double standards and cultural baggage, details bitch archetypes, and empowers the internal strength you already know you have, but might need a nudge to claim proudly. Kali's dominatrix past has taught her how to stand tall and take up space — and she'll teach you, too. This book is her best knowledge written down, and we are lucky to have it in the world.
Sinclair Sexsmith
Author of Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica
The bitch stigma book
Women are socialized from a young age to be many things: agreeable, soft, nurturing, and encouraging. Above all, at all costs, we're taught to avoid being labelled a bitch. But we live in a society where any display of confidence--from communicating directly to setting boundaries to simply pursuing our ambitions--can get us thrown into that dreaded category.
Whether you've already embraced your inner badass but could use an extra nudge to keep standing tall, or you're just starting to search for your confidence, Ditch the Bitch Stigma is for women who've had enough, who are done with always catering to others, putting ourselves second, and sacrificing our own needs and desires.
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